I haven't told many people, I don't really think it's necessary. And the only reason I have told a few people is because something weird happens when I get nervous around people and I say the opposite of what I want to say...and so "I have Aspergers" tumbles out of my lips occasionally.
And I get weird looks. Well, the most common reaction I've gotten so far is "Really? I never would have guessed that about you." I guess that over the past 28 years, I've learned a few things about interacting with people so it's relatively easy to hide. But what I really want to say is "You don't really know me so you have no idea what I'm really like!" This is the problem I have. Not many people know me. They may have seen the side of me that acts silly, goofs off and tries to have fun...but that's typically my nervous way of trying to avoid any sort of serious socializing. It's weird. I know.
I have severe social anxiety. And I am a hair stylist. It's like I'm living a nightmare every day. It's been that way with a lot of jobs, mainly because I've always been in the service industry one way or another. The last job I had was working at the front desk of a cosmetology school. I had to greet and assist probably hundreds of people every day (another skill I lack is estimating space and numbers...so pardon me if I'm greatly exaggerating. But that's what it felt like!) The weird part was that it wasn't bad greeting people and ringing them up, mainly because I had a scripted greeting that I created for myself and when ringing people up I just got to stare at the computer screen. The absolute worst part about that job was the way way way overboard sensory stimulation. Phones ringing off the hook, the music absolutely blaring, people talking to me even though I was clearly busy...so much noise. I think that was the hardest part of that job. The noise.
Well, now the noise is eliminated at my salon. It's peaceful-ish. It's just that now, I'm the one responsible for the noise. I have to talk, one on one, to someone. I have to find out very personal details about their hair care, while looking them in the eye, no script...stumbling...stuttering...and then I have to color/cut their hair while talking (ack! I can't do both! Let me work in silence!) AND THEN...I have to try and figure out if they like what I've done. This is a lot for me.
I don't want to focus on this...all of the "downsides" to this syndrome. I want to find the positive ways I can use this and I want to succeed professionally (and maybe socially, I haven't decided.) Growing up, I typically excelled in any academic field that I put my mind to, math being the exception. I never liked math. I was decent at it but I just didn't like it. I taught myself how to play the upright bass. I figured out how to play soccer at the collegiate level without playing competitively before. I learned German pretty easily. I love problem solving and figuring things out. How can I use this to succeed professionally and not weird out my coworkers?
My special brand of weirdness also comes with a crippling fear of bureaucracy. I have a really really hard time talking to the "people in charge." Not that I have authority issues, there's just something about the higher ups that just make me want to tuck my tail between my legs and go hide in a corner, even if I did nothing wrong. Pretty much getting anything done that requires talking to people at a business is terrifying.
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